Break up can be done by you because the person you love is a total disaster, you want to leave him or her but can’t because you don’t know how to deal with a broken heart. If you're thinking of breaking up with your partner, let a week pass before you end the relationship. Then ask yourself again if what you are planning to do is right or not or should you think about it again? Don't hold days to ease your partner's pain or yours. If you decide to explain the reason of a breakup, try to be honest and not tactful.More often than not, breaking up is as hard on the person ending the relationship as it is on the person being broken up with - don't assume just because a person is breaking up with you means that they no longer care about you, caring about you and wanting a relationship with you are not one and the same. Nobody likes to hurt another person, especially somebody they have been close to, and it is often very easy to guilt trip somebody into staying with you when they are trying to end things. Resist this urge! When you use guilt as a way to stop a break up you not only cheat yourself out of having a good and true relationship, you foster resentment in the other person which could lead to greater pain and heart ache in the future.
Breakup can be by your partner whom you loved a lot and now since he or she is not there in your life you feel this big void inside you, you don’t know how to cope up with it. Being broken up with does not mean that there is something wrong with you; it just means that there is something that is not working in the relationship. Try not to take the rejection too personally. Remember that lots of great people have had failed relationships - the fact that the relationships failed says nothing about their value as a person. The fact that your relationship failed likewise says nothing about you as a person.
Any breakup is a hurtful experience. Such hurt can dangerously shrink our harmony and happiness. It is all right to sob, get crazy and feel hurt when you are dumped. These are normal natural feelings. Just be sure that you let your feelings out in a safe place among friends or family. Do not make your ex the target of your feelings, even if they have done something to deserve your outrage. The sooner you let go of the other person, the sooner the healing can begin. Some people easily go through a breakup and are back dating just in few days. Others keep their feelings of hurt inside forever and don’t trust anyone again. Break ups are often followed by one of the parties starting a new relationship and when this happens it can bring up all sorts of old feelings. If you thought you were over someone who broke up with you and find yourself upset at the news that s/he has moved on, rest assured you are normal. Let yourself be upset, it is part of the healing process.
Acting out in anger is never good for anybody. After being broken up with don't spread mean or spiteful rumors. Don't betray former confidences by telling old secrets to others. If another person was involved in your break up resist the urge to slam them behind their back. Acting vicious only makes you look bad and any satisfaction you may feel will be short lived. In the end this sort of behaviour will only make you feel worse. Find yourself, find what is inside you and inside yourself find only best self. Five or six or even more bad relationships are not a big deal. Nobody ever deserves to be hurt. Your ex does not deserve to be hurt because you are hurting. Your ex's new love interest (if one even exists) does not deserve to be hurt just because you feel jealous. You do not deserve to be hurt, even if you acted badly and caused the break up. Breaking up hurts, but it doesn't have to be made worse by holding a grudge or drowning yourself in a pool of if only's. Deal with the reality and let go of your anger, the pain will disappear more quickly if you do.
Things may seem bleak now but you never know what the future may hold for you and your ex. You may get back together someday. You may not. Either way it is better to let go of a faltering relationship while there is still some caring left between the two of you. If you play it out to the bitter end and leave your ex no choice but to hate you to get rid of you, you close the door to the future. Bowing out graciously leaves room for a future relationship with your ex, even if it is just as good friends. So forget about your ex it may be easy to say but it can be if you want it to be ease. Go out have fun with friends. If you cut-off yourself from whole world dont forget you have even cut yourself off from any prospective girl or guy. Then you wont ever be able to find the person you were always looking for.
Coping with a break up is difficult, but if you really want to get over this feeling of hurt and move on in your life read the following tips:
1: Hide or throw everything that reminds you of breakup. Don't attempt to contact your past love! Don't try to get your love back right away. It can be possible, but if they wanted to be with you they would have never broken up in the first place. So wait a little and notice their move before making your own move.
2: Don't exaggerate your breakup. Everyone goes through it. It is completely normal to experience grief, anxiety and resentment, but don't consider breakup as a devastation. Negative emotions tend to worsen the situation, so don't let them dominate you. Failed to cope with all? Then take a pen and say your say on a piece of paper. When you feel that nothing can be added crumple the paper and throw it away. You may beat your pillow or let you emotions flow away at your local gym. Start a daily journal to release all of your feelings.
3: Make lists of good and bad things about you. List of bad things will help you realize your mistakes in past relationship and improve yourself. List of good things will raise your self-esteem and will help you move on because you have those good things which is necessary to get someone better than what you had. Lists will help you develop inner feeling of self worth and freedom.
4: Have fun. Go out with your friends to disco, nightclubs. Enjoy yourself. Go in for sport. Do something that you always wanted to do but couldn’t do because you were in relationship. Physical activity relieves nervous pressure. A firm, hard body is great for your self-esteem.
5: Keep your mind busy with new information. Staying active mentally will also help you to getting over your past. And you never know the girl at disc may find your talks quite interesting.
6: Keep your heart busy with positive emotions: get outdoors, go shopping, surround yourself with your close friends.
7: Meet new people. Try dating online again, your real other half may have been waiting for you for a long time.Meet your friends of opposite sex and know about their single cute friends. The idea is to flirt with end number of people.
9: Enjoy being single for a while! Dream, figure out the type of relationship you wish,
10: Realize features you don't want in your partner and things you can live with.
