A perfect Gift for your boyfriend this Christmas

So there are my tips for Christmas gifts to get your boyfriend. If you can't find something here then you may be out of luck, but I feel like any of these options, or a combination of some, will make any guy happy. Another little tip that my boyfriend and I have done every year:

1 Video Game (or video game system)
You can get your boyfriend a video game or video game system. I feel like most guys these days are obsessed with some kind of system or game. 

2 Take him to dinner and a movie
This Christmas, treat your boyfriend to a dinner and movie of his choice. It may not sound like much, but he will love being treated and not having to worry about paying for once. Believe me, it's simple and easy, but it can be a great gift. 

3 Gift Cards
Here is another one of those you never fail gifts. Every guy can find something at Sports Shops. You would like to buy him something for hunting or fishing. Buying him a gift card to his favorite store, it makes him feel like a kid in a toy store. I know gift cards sound tacky and you want to get your boyfriend something meaningful- but seriously, to him, I really think he would like to buy toys for his collections.

4 Electronics (ipod, gps, tv)
Now, depending on how much you want to spend this Christmas, electronics are something that you can't go wrong buying for your boyfriend. Whether you want to get him an Ipod, a TV, a GPS, or something else, he will
forever be grateful. 

Or get him a large stocking (You can buy it in any malls) and put his presents in there. If you get him one nicer thing, you can wrap it and stick it in the bottom of the stocking, then add little stocking stuffers like candy and a card. It makes it exciting to open gifts, and you always find little surprises. This makes it fun and less nerve-racking to open gifts with your guy. So have fun, and remember that it's not the gift, but the thought that counts!

Boyfriend Checklist

It isn't a secret that women have internal checklists when it comes to men and dating, but you may be surprised at just how many categories women have to classify all the men they meet. It isn't as simple as “yes” or “no” anymore. The first hurdle to conquer in your pursuit of a woman is to make sure that you aren't sidelined into the platonic category, or even worse, the “completely not interested” category. 

If at least three of the following apply to you and your lady friend, you can assume that you are in the running for a more-than-platonic future. If not, you could very well be headed for the dreaded F-word -- friends -- in which case it might be better to cut your losses and move on to a new target. 

  • We have exchanged contact information and have each initiated communication on more than one occasion.
  • We have had more than three scheduled one-on-one encounters.
  • We have kissed more than twice and at least once without the help of alcohol.
  • At the end of each meeting, a subsequent date is already implied or confirmed. 
If you've managed to pass the test and meet a woman's basic interest level, you aren't necessarily home-free yet. Regardless of her attraction to you, remember that not all relationships are created equal. Women have increasingly gotten on board with the idea of taking a lover instead of committing to a relationship, making it even more difficult for men to figure out where they fit in. 
So, just how does she decide whether to take you for a ride in the sack or for dinner with her parents? The easy answer would be that if she is attracted to you, she wants to have you as her boyfriend, but we all know women are much more complicated than that. Most of the factors that affect her decision have nothing to do with you and happen on a much more subconscious level than a superficial analysis of your appearance, job or personality. Take a look at the factors that come into play and find out how to spot a woman who is looking for the same thing you are.


Her lifestyle

In choosing whether to take you as a lover or a boyfriend, a woman will undoubtedly consider how you would fit into the rest of her life. Whether she has a hectic work schedule or an active social life, she will need a boyfriend who can easily join her activities and mesh with her social circle. That being said, if she can't imagine you getting along with her friends or finding her weekend activities enjoyable, she will most likely have you tackle only her bedroom requirements rather than rearrange her life to suit you. 
To find out which way she's leaning, take a look at some clues she might be throwing your way.
She wants a boyfriend if she:

  • Says that you and her best friend/brother/cousin have a lot in common and would get along.
  • Discusses her plans or goals for the future and shows an interest in yours.
  • Doesn't hesitate to introduce you when she runs into someone she knows.
  • Asks for your help with something she is unable to do on her own.
Her last relationship and her dating style can also provide valuable clues…
She wants a lover if she:
  • Regularly mentions social events she will be attending but never asks you to join her.
  • Turns down your invitations to social events.
  • Dismisses your attempts to share any personal information.
  • Tells you that her schedule can be unpredictable and offers to call you when she's free. 

Her last relationship

Women can be very reactionary in their dating and sexual lives; they will often choose new partners based heavily on what their last partner was lacking or how different they are from the one that came before.Recent breakups and long dry-spells can indicate that a woman is not interested in pursuing an emotional entanglement, regardless of her attraction to you. Conversely, a woman with an active dating life or a past amicable breakup is more likely to consider new men as possible relationship material. 

Unfortunately, without actually asking, it can be difficult to figure out if she's ready and willing to date or if she is only interested in finding someone to keep her warm at night. What a woman divulges about her relationship history -- and relationships in general -- can provide you with plenty of insight into her intentions toward you. 

She wants a boyfriend if she:
  • Tells you specifically why her last relationship failed and what she's learned from it.
  • Mentions the relationship status of her close friends.
  • Asks about your previous girlfriends and dating history.
  • Remarks on how different you are from her past boyfriends. 
She wants a lover if she:
  • Avoids discussing previous men in her life or only makes negative comments about them.
  • Is less than enthusiastic when discussing a friend's relationship or upcoming wedding.
  • Tells you that you remind her of her ex.
  • Lets you know that she is casually dating a variety of men. 

Her dating style

If you're still unsure about which way your relationship is headed, the best place to look for a hint is in the kind of time you spend together and how your new woman handles herself. 

A woman looking to explore a relationship will have a very different dating profile than one who is just on the prowl for something carnal in nature. A relationship-minded woman will plan dating activities that foster getting to know you, while someone interested in you just for what you can offer in the bedroom will want dates that allow her to showcase her desirability and make physical intimacy a top priority. 

She wants a boyfriend if she:
  • Suggests watching a romantic comedy or scary movie.
  • Invites you to events that represent how she likes to spend her time or things that are important to her.
  • Suggests a double date or a social gathering where you will be interacting with her friends, family or coworkers.
  • Wants to hold your hand or be otherwise intimate with you in public. 
She wants a lover if she:
  • Shows no interest in scheduling daytime dates. *
  • Plans activities that revolve around the consumption of alcohol or are at places that make conversation impossible. *
  • Gravitates toward dating activities that allow for revealing clothing or physical interaction.
  • Suggests dinner and a movie at her place, then mentions that she can't cook.

Women are complex creatures and there will always be confusion between the sexes when it comes to dating. Keeping your eyes and ears open will increase your chances of figuring out what your woman has on her mind and exactly where you fit in: her bed or her speed-dial.

* not applicable to all. This is based on 4 out of 5 reviews.

10 signs that he likes you

How can you tell if a guy likes you or is interested? You noticed him when you were standing and talking with a friend. You think he noticed you, but maybe it was your imagination or just wishful thinking. He looked at you at about the same time you saw him. Your eyes met for just a few seconds, and then you looked away. When you looked back up, he was talking with some other people. Was he watching you as you mingled? Or were you making that up? How can you tell if a guy likes you? Why are guys so hard to read?

Here are ten signs that he is interested in you too. If any of the following happens, he is probably trying to get close enough to ask you out:

1. He tells someone

Is he interested? He likes you if he tells a mutual friend that he wants to know more about you, or he asks other people who you are and where you're from. He is trying to act like he's "just asking" but his questions indicate more than a casual interest. And when he tells someone that he finds you attractive, he probably knows that it will get back to you. He's hoping it does.

2. The look

He gives you a look that betrays his calm exterior. Even though he is across the room, "that look" he has says it all. It is sweeping, from your head to your toes, and then his eyes linger on yours. You think you notice the beginning of a tentative smile. 
If you catch him looking at you and he smiles when your eyes meet, there is a very good chance he is interested in you. If he does it once he might just be friendly. If he does it twice or more, he likes you.

3. Looking away style

A boy that is shy or introverted is likely to look away very suddenly when he makes eye contact with you. The giveaway in this case is the quick head snap or the eyes darting away. Wait for a moment or two after he looks away before looking back at him. If he likes you, odds are he'll be looking again and the process will repeat.
A great way to watch him without making eye contact is to have your friends watch him. Try not to look at him during this test. Have your friends watch to see where his eyes are looking. If he likes you, he will be so engrossed in following you around the room that he won't notice your friends are spying.

4. The conversation

Does he like you? When he manages to get close enough to you, to ask you questions, he is interested. He appears to be listening and responds to what you say. He's moving in to the ultimate question, which is: "Are you seeing anyone." He would only ask this question if he wanted to date you, and he hopes the answer is "No." Never ever wear a ring in public. When a guy is across the room, he cannot tell which finger it is on and he may assume incorrectly that you are taken. If he doesn't ask you the question of whether or not you are attached, he may ask someone whom you both know.

5. Less eye contact and interaction

Sometimes when a boy acts like you don't exist when you are near, he may actually be very interested in you. This is because being around you may intimidate him. Give him some distance and see if he loosens up and returns to staring at you.

6. Teases you

This may seem counterintuitive, but he might tease you because he likes you. It's true though. Some boys don't know how to express their feelings or may not even understand his feelings. 

Other boys want to tell you they are interested but don't know how-except by teasing. While you may be annoyed by his actions, understand that it is a form of attention. You might want to tease him back a little--it's a good way to flirt with a guy.

7. His friends talk to you

If one or more of his friends starts talking to you, chances are he has asked them to find out if you are interested. Whatever you tell his friends will be passed along to him. Once he knows that you are interested, he will probably follow up by talking to you himself.

8. Show interest to you friends

Boys may begin to show interest in your friends if he is interested in you. He may want to ask your friends if you like him, or he may just use your friends to get closer to you.

9. He appears unexpectedly

He likes you a lot if he shows up out of nowhere. He can only do that if he has been asking people about your schedule, or he has been paying attention to where you are going and at what time. 

His face may turn red when he sees you. A sudden, "Oh, hi," is his way of saying, "I don't want to seem obvious, but I am interested in you." If you feel the same way, do not act shy. Stop and talk to him. 

It's one thing to spot him looking at you when you are the only person in the room--but what about when you are standing in a crowd? He is interested if he fixes his gaze on you when he has so many other choices.

10. Does nice and tries to hard (effort)

Many boys will do very nice things for you if given the opportunity. He might offer to carry heavy objects for you, hold the door, or other acts of service.

To get your attention and to win you over, boys will sometimes try too hard. This can be in the form of being overly funny (and usually failing to be funny at all) or showing off his athletic skills.

Is he interested? When you are well liked and a happy person, why wouldn't he like you? Of course he does. If you don't have a great life, however, now is your time to start working on one. Take a look at your career possibilities, body image, future, plans, and resources. You may be naturally talented at something, but it won't matter unless you work on your strengths. Misused or unused talents fade away. School and training do not.

These are the top ten signs that he is interested and he is on the verge of asking you out. Make it easy for him and be friendly. This is where relationships begin. Watch for the signs or to be absolutely certain - simply ask him.

Top 10 signs that she likes you

If you have not figured out whether she likes you or not, she may not like you. It is usually easy to discover but sometimes when you like someone else, you are the one blindfolded into encumbrance of another. However, it can never hurt to try, the worst that happens is a scoff at you or being ignored, if she's really rude she'll make some annoying statement. Sometimes girls can be just, ewe and shoot you down real quick, you'll know if you don't get that comforting vibe. Speaking from a woman's point of view, finding out if a girl likes you is not always easy. Its not easy because there is that fear of rejection. Especially if you think she likes you and she really doesn't. But since women don't always tell how they feel, pay attention to her actions or words.

A lot of people do not know how to approach a woman to strike up a conversation or tell if someone likes you. Its all in how someone treats you and how they respond to you when you are speaking to them. if a person seems happier when they are around you and listens closely to your every word then this person must love you.

If she likes you;
1. She smiles at you, a lot
2. She looks away quickly if you make eye contact and then looks at you again to make sure you're still looking.She makes minimal eye contact because she may not be feeling confident but just looks up and down a lot.
3. She adjusts her outfit or accessories as your looking at her and she pretends not to notice
4. She talks about random things just to have something to say to you and hopes that you'll reply
5. She asks you questions to get you to converse
6. She plays with her hair and her fingers a lot
7. She shifts her feet a lot
8. She creates these awkward poses that makes you think she's so cute when she does it and obviously it turns you on, that is the point
9. She bats her eyelashes or gives you the shy eye and a blushing cheek
10. She asks you to join her somewhere nicer that she would just ask a friend
Unfortunately, some girls are a tease and will do these things just for attention, but you can always try, until you find that special someone there is no reason why you cannot enjoy yourself, just play safely and don't get attached to someone who is not reciprocating your feelings. Also, ask your female and male friends who are truly your friends opinions, most friends will tell you their honest opinions. And if your friends hate her, don't do it, you might gain a girlfriend but sacrifice your friends along the way and in the long run it's just not worth it. A girl will like you for you if she is into you, just get to know each other for a real relationship if that is what you seek. But frankly, a confident girl will let you know she likes you to your face. :)


I work up today I think, uninspired, nah! not really, I am tired,  perhaps. I'm always excited to read articles/stories and came crossed to a site which I  posted below. 
It is often tiresome to hear love quarrels and it’s never ending manifestations. The petty things lovers fight over about and the other stuff that intermingles and usually balloons up the “petty” quarrel. But what really is astonishing is the ability of the heart to heal and forgive… and sometimes, let pass. One gloomy day as I start my day late, I got a call from my girlfriend to meet up and watch a movie.
Having nothing more important to do, I obliged so willingly. It started as smooth as suave can be. We met, kissed, hugged and watched a thrilling movie. We ate dinner late and enjoyed it as much as we enjoyed each others company. We laughed until it hurts; we horsed around until we got tired. We thought of having a night cap over at a coffee shop on our way home. Needless to say, it was nothing short of perfect. Then the unthinkable happened. She was toying around with my new cellular phone and checked out the newly transferred photos from my old phone. Then she discovered a picture with my hand holding a cigarette. I’ve quit the habit two years now and will continue to be nicotine sober until the end of time. Naturally, she confronted me. I said that that was just a lapse of judgment, succumbing to peer pressure afraid to be ridiculed at that moment. But of course I’d understand as well her outburst. She even broke up with me right there and then. We both cried our eyes out. Me being sorry and she sorrier for me. It was an eye opener for both of us. One seeing it from the other side of the spectrum and another from the optimistic side. She thought of the situation as a sign that I’ll never be as open or as honest as she likes me to be. I realized on the other hand that a good reason we never get into big fights is because it’s the little ones that are more significant. I used to argue that it’s just a petty thing to fight for that we may very well let it pass so as to not blow it out of proportion. As she was pointing out (forcefully if I may say) that her point is beyond the cigarette. It struck me that she has a point all this while. That this little quarrel isn’t about what I did, it’s about what I didn’t tell. Then I realized further that almost all our little fights originate to this very single source, my inability to tell things thought “insignificant” to her. It hit me like a lorry head-on! I asked for forgiveness and should I say, ‘the rest is history’. But the funny thing with love is that it simplifies humility and mercy. A car may run out of fuel, a cellular phone may run out of charge but the heart can never run out of love.
Honestly, after reading this it made me pause and contemplate for awhile. For the reason that this is a guy's point of view. Guy realizing this things. Is he a gay or he is in love? hai! I want to cut this cheesy thingy. 

It is really healthy to have disagreements and even if you do making up is the best part. Different people argue about different things, what might be small to you might be huge to someone else. But I definitely agree that fighting can be healing sometimes. Passive aggressive personalities generally do more damage in this situation so at least you're speaking your mind.  I think we all need to improve our listening skills and practice on the art of compromising. Some battles aren't worth fighting over. Still I think that "what maybe not important to you, maybe important to others. I therefore conclude that you should ask. We cannot assume for something we aren't sure about. To take things in the clearer picture, just ASK and please LISTEN. I learned to accept the good over the bad. 

Just a thought: There's a saying that, "lovers who fight, are lovers who love..." If you're growing together, stay together. Think with your heart and feel with your mind. :)

Is LOVE worth fighting for?

Honestly, It depends on why he/she left. If they said I'm not happy with you. Let it go.
cannot see fighting to keep someone who wanted out. They would have to let me know that they believe we have a chance otherwise, I would let them go find their happiness, even if it is without me. I may love them but if they do not want to be with me I cannot hold them down and know they are not happy, just to soothe my own feelings. To love someone is to want their happiness. If they want to go, love them enough to let them. 

I used to believe in the theory "let them go and if it comes back to you, keep her/him". I know some rare cases that could be true. But I think there are some things worth fighting for, working hard to turn things around, and not giving up if they have. They could be lost or delusional, they could be manipulated or deceived, they could be ill. There are so many different scenarios that I can imagine not giving up but working, fighting, demonstrating my love and concern. No, I wouldn't keep someone that needed to go that was truly unhappy. But I think that I will take my chances with love fighting for itself. If it's just hardtimes getting you all down and he/she doesn't know what to do anymore. Fight for your love, Show her/him you're there and things can and will be ok. Because Love is something truely beautiful and pure and fighting for it and dealing with the pain is something very worth the good outcome! Love is a special gift from God, and remember with God all things are possible.

What you think? :)

When she cries

Men Speaks, Girls you listen. 
I know some girls will be shocked others will not. But lets just live it to the guys. They know and mastered in their own feelings and rationale. :)

Facts about men:

Guy 1: No woman no cry

Guy 2: It breaks my heart. I hug her immediately

Guy 3: It makes me feel sad

Guy 4: If I find it unreasonable, I get angry.

Guy 5: I want to do something to make her feel better.

Guy 6: If it is real pain for her, I feel them too. I get frustrated

Guy 7: I hate it. It turned me off. Especially when she has stupid reasons. Darn! Girls are so emotional.

Guy 8: I feel heartbroken that such a work of art is stricken with sadness.

Guy 9: It is terrible. My first instinct is to comfort her, and then do everything I possibly can to make her feel better, even if it could give me a bruise, or end up with me making fun of myself. It’s a truly horrid feeling. Guys are happy (ish) creatures, a girl crying is like someone stabbing our bubble with a harpoon. Also, once we learn the source of the tears, we’ll often do what we can to right the issue, especially so if said girl is a good friend, or something more. We’ve gotta stand up for something, right?

Guy 10: If she just got bullied, made fun of, or beat I would go ALL OUT (especially if I liked her too). If there is one thing a man should be taught is to never make a girl cry or to stand up for one.

Guy 11: Make me weak. I can't it. It totally kicks in the protection instinct. I really cant stand it and I become putty in their hands.

Guy 12: Seeing anybody crying is painful and when that happens because of us it is even more. In such a case one can only apologize sincerely. We might try to comfort you in some way even if that means leaving you your own for a while, but that is only when you tell us to.

Before I share my personal note on this, let me share you what I found awhile ago. 

A little boy asked his mother, "Why are you crying?" 
"Because I'm a woman," she told him. 
"I don't understand," he said. 
His Mom just hugged him and said, "And you never will." 
Later the little boy asked his father, "Why does mother seem to cry for no reason?" 
"All women cry for no reason," was all his dad could say. 
The little boy grew up and became a man, still wondering why women cry. Finally he asked God. He said, "God, why do women cry so easily?" 

God said: 
"When I made the woman she had to be special. I made her shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world, yet gentle enough to give comfort. I gave her an inner strength to endure childbirth and the rejection that many times comes from her children. I gave her a hardness that allows her to keep going when everyone else gives up, and take care of her family through sickness and fatigue without complaining. I gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all circumstances, even when her child has hurt her very badly. I gave her strength to carry her husband through his faults and fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart. I gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, but sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him unfalteringly. And finally, I gave her a tear to shed. This is hers exclusively to use whenever it is needed." "You see my son," said God, "the beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart - the place where love resides." 

On a personal note: Girls do cry for a reason. For different reasons. It is best to listen what she wanted to say. Because I believe women are designed not to be understood but to be loved.