Proper Time ManagementDo you have a problem with time management? If you do, you have two main options. One of those options and often the most popular is to continue with your normal activities. Unfortunately, doing so may have a negative impact on your personal life, as well as your work life. The other option is to make a change. The good news is that there a number of steps that you can take to improve your time management.
As for what you can do to improve your time management, you will see that a number of different approaches can be taken. Goal setting, to do lists, limiting tasking, prioritizing, and outsourcing are all effective ways to manage your time, but they are also just a few of your options. As for why you should learn and practice proper time management, there are a number of reasons why, five of which are outlined below.
1 – It Is Easy To Do
As previously summarized, you have a number of different options when looking forward to making better use of your time. These options are all easy and cost effective ways. In fact, creating goals and task lists for yourself is free of charge. Since it is easy for you to learn and practice proper time management techniques, why would you want to do anything else?

2 – It Is Important To Your Personal Life
As previously stated, having a poor sense of time management has a number of serious consequences, one of those being your personal life. If you regularly pay your bills late, don't contact friends, or arrive home later than normal, you may be hurting your personal relationships and often in more ways than you could have ever imagined. Friends, spouses, and romantic partners will likely not want to put up with this behavior for long.
3 – It Is Important For Your Job

Poor time management will not only negatively affect your personal life, but your work life as well. If you do not know how to properly manage your time, you may get easily distracted. This may result in you wasting company time. If you are caught doing so repeatedly, you may find yourself terminated from your current position. This can also have a negative impact on your personal life, as it may leave your finances in serious trouble.
4 – It Is Something That You Can Only Benefit From
Taking the time to learn and practice successful time management techniques can only benefit you, your work, and your personal relationships. Since no money technically needs to be spent on time management tools or training, you have nothing to lose, but everything to gain. It is also important to ask yourself again the important question of “why not?” Why not improve your life with the learning and practicing of time management techniques?
5 – The Options That You Have
Once again, it is important to focus on the options that you have when looking forward to learning and practice proper time management. Creating a set of goals and a task list is easy and free to do. Alarm clocks and timers can also be used to help you make better use of your time. You likely already own a traditional alarm, but your cell phone, computer, and television may also come equipped with alarm clocks as well.
As a reminder, there are a number of other time management tools and techniques that you can easily learn and practice all from the comfort of your own home.


Nails on a chalkboard. A fly buzzing around the room. A child having a tantrum in the next apartment. The drip-drip-drip of a leaking faucet. Anoverheard cell-phone conversation in a public place. Most people would agree that these things are amazingly annoying , but what is it about them, exactly, that irritates us so much?

According to "Annoying: The Science of What Bugs Us," some sounds, like the screech-squeak of nails on achalkboard or the high-pitched drone of a mosquito near one's ear, are irritating because we react to them in a physical way. "It seems to be something intrinsic about that mix of frequencies," said Flora Lichtman, co-author of "Annoying: The Science of What Bugs Us," in a recent interview with NPR . "The change in volume rapidly—it's called 'rough' in acoustics—most people's ears don't like that stimulus."

We all react to sounds, sensations, and situations differently because of our personal experiences, cultural differences, and emotional associations—it's why madeleine cookies trigger memories for Proust , but just make the rest of us feel a little snacky. But in general, the things that annoy us tend to have three things in common, regardless of our personal histories: Unpredictability, unpleasantness, and uncertainty. A perfect example? The over-heard cellphone call.

It's not just the fact that it's rude, points out Lauren Emberson , a psychology graduate student at Cornell University who has studied the annoying nature of "halfalouges"—when you hear only one side of a conversation. It has to do with the way we process information. "Our brains are always predicting what's going to happen next, based on our current state of knowledge—this is how we learn about the world, but it also reflects how we are in the world," she says. "When something is unexpected, it draws our attention in, our brains tune into it because we're this information-seeking, prediction-loving cognitive system."

"The thing that's frustrating about a cell phone conversation is that it's very hard to predict, which was one of the things that we found makes something annoying, usually," adds Lichtman. It's unpleasant, because you can't concentrate on other things while your brain is trying to predict the missing parts of the overheard conversation, studies show. And the fact that you know it must end, but don't know exactly when, ratchets up the annoying factor.

In fact, not knowing the reason for something—why your computer is running slowly, why your 8 am flight still hasn't boarded at 8:25, why traffic is at a standstill even though it's not rush hour—can make it seem even more annoying that it would be otherwise.

So, what can you to keep your irritation in check? In the book, Lichtman and her co-author, NPR Science Correspondent Joe Palca , suggest "cognitive restructuring," where you remind yourself that you shouldn't be annoyed by whatever is pushing your buttons—a baby cries because it has no other way to communicate, for example; that loud coworker is just being her usual, overly perky self. Another trick: Focus on something else."But that doesn't work very well," admits Palca on NPR's "Morning Edition. "So basically the bottom-line is you're stuck: it's annoying, and that's part of life." 


The perfect wife light-heartedly teases and makes fun of her husband when he tells a joke that isn't funny or that he has repeated a million times. She has a sense of sarcasm and a sense of humor, and once her husband experiences the freedom to banter back and forth with her as they tease each other like schoolchildren, pretending to take offense but laughing all the way, he will be driveninsane by girls who don't get sarcasm and good-natured ribbing.

The perfect wife doesn't just quietly pick up all the clothes, cups, dishes and trash that her husband leaves around, hiding all issues she has with his uncleanliness, and pretend that life is just peachy. She tells him what he can do to keep the place clean and reduce both of their stress levels and workloads. Not to mention, her husband might just be the type who is a clean freak himself. Her husband might even be the one who is more into cleanliness and keeping the place neat and orderly.

The perfect wife doesn't just lay there in bed with her husband, putting up with his snoring that makes their bedroom sound like the Fast and the Furious' race scenes. The perfect wife helps her husband find a treatment for said snoring, for BOTH of their benefits. 

The perfect wife knows that it shouldn't be her responsibility to cook 100 percent of the time. The perfect wife has a husband who enjoys cooking as well, not just sitting on the couch with his Budweiser in hand, waiting for her to finish dinner. In fact, she might have to fight him for use of the kitchen at times. The perfect wife is one who has taste in husbands, and there's not much use for not knowing how to cook for one's self. What are you gonna do when your wife can't cook for you or it's simply a better idea for you to cook for you, or better yet, to cook for her? Maybe she's worked late, too - and trust me, the perfect wife isn't just a stay at home wife. 

The perfect wife sometimes needs to vent about her day, because obviously, she will have her bad days, and she will have her bad moods. In exchange, she will give her husband a chance to vent about his day. Both will listen to each other's vents and rants, and then they will help each other feel better by whatever they want to do - date night, one cooking for the other, or simply falling asleep in each other's arms.

The perfect wife comes forth about issues in her mind regarding things - money, chores, kids. She wants her husband to help out with the chores, and she appreciates it very much when he does, and lets him know this. She knows this isn't the fifties, and that a man usually isn't TRULY happy just being married to a maid. It's far more important for her to make him feel emotionally needed - not just needed for his money. It's also far more important for her to be needed emotionally - not just needed for housework.

The perfect wife can pay her own bills, can drive her own car, can buy her own clothes and spa treatments, can enjoy a good cigar or beer now and then, and can freak out when her favorite sports team loses. She's an independent woman. She's an independent woman who needs you because she loves you, as opposed to a dependent woman who loves you(or pretends to love you) because she needs you. You tell me, men, which one do you prefer?


This comprehensive wedding budget checklist has been designed to provide you with all the items necessary for any size wedding, including such hidden costs as taxes, gratuities and other "items" that can easily add up to thousands of dollars in a wedding. The "Wedding Budget Checklist" is divided into fifteen categories to help you select and purchase all of your service providers, and wedding necessities. Use this handy checklist when purchasing all of your wedding related goods and services

Ceremony Site Fee
Officiant's Fee
Officiant's Gratuity
Guest Book, Pen
Ring Bearer Pillow
Flower Girl Basket


Bridal Gown
Headpiece & Veil
Makeup Artist
Groom's Formal Wear


Bride & Groom's Album
Parents' Album
Extra Prints
Engagement Photograph
Formal Bridal Portrait 

Main Video
Extra Hours
Photo Montage
Extra Copies

Response Cards
Reception Cards
Ceremony Cards
Pew Cards
Seating/Place Cards
Rain Cards/Maps
Ceremony Programs
Thank-You Notes
Napkins/ Matchbooks

Ceremony Music
Reception Music


Reception Site Fee
Hors D' Oeuvresv
Main Meal/Caterer
Liquor/ Beverages
Bartending Fee
Bar Set-up Fee
Corkage Fee
Fee to Pour Coffee
Service Providers' Meals
Party Favors
Disposable Cameras
Rose Petals/Rice
Gift Attendant
Parking Fee
Valet Services


Maid of Honor's

Floral Hairpiece
Maid of Honor
Flower Girl's

Bride's Going Away
Other Family Members'

Other Family's

Ceremony Site
Main Altar
Alter Candelabra
Aisle Pews Reception Site

Reception Site
Head Table
Guest Tables
Buffet Table
Punch Table
Cake Table
Cake Knife
Toasting Glasses
Floral Delivery & Setup


Wedding Cake
Groom's Cake
Cake Delivery
Set-up Fee
Cake-Cutting Fee
Cake Top
Cake Knife/Toast Glasses


Table Centerpieces


Bridal Slip
Ceremony Accessories
Dance Floor


Bride's Gift
Groom's Gift
Bridesmaids' Gifts
Ushers' Gifts


Bridesmaids' Luncheon
Rehearsal Dinner


Newspaper Announ.
Marriage License
Prenuptial Agreement
Bridal Gown/Bouquet
Wedding Consultant
Wedding Softwarer Taxes


  • A bridal shower is a gathering of family, friends and coworkers in honor of an impending marriage ceremony. This typically all-girl celebration allows loved-ones to shower the bride with gifts, but without a checklist, your shower may be doomed to fail before it starts. To stay on budget and create a memorable bridal shower, use a detailed checklist to plan the perfect event.

Meet With the Bride and Important Family Members

  • While the bridesmaids or maid of honor may host the bridal shower, don't leave the bride's family out of the planning process. According to The Knot's website, "the mother of the bride will probably want to pitch in or have family friends or siblings who'd like to contribute." Include the bride in the beginning planning stages to determine her wishes concerning color schemes and guest list preferences.

Determine the Theme & Guest List

  • Are you having a tea party, lingerie shower or kitchen shower? Determine the best theme for the bride's personality and the guests' overall enjoyment. The invitations, décor, food and gifts should reflect the bridal shower theme. Gather a list of the bride's friends, family members or coworkers for the final guest list.

Choose Date, Location & Budget

  • "Emily Post's Etiquette" recommends that the wedding shower be held from two weeks to two months prior to the wedding. If you cannot have the event at the mother of the bride's home or at one of the bridesmaid's residences, choose a restaurant or rent an apartment complex clubhouse for the event. Create a budget for the shower to include the cost to rent a facility, decorations, food, cake, games, party favors. Ask the bridesmaids and others close to the bride to contribute a small monetary contribution to the overall bridal shower budget.

Send Invitations, Select Décor and Food

  • Purchase decorations for the bridal shower that reflect the overall theme. For example, if you are planning a Mexican fiesta shower, send red, green or yellow invitations to the guests. Serve Mexican-style food such as chips and queso or salsa, and serve drinks like mojitos or non-alcoholic sangria at the bridal shower. Include a wedding bell-shaped piñata for the shower guests along with Mexican-themed décor like cacti. Serve flan for desert along with a festive cake.

Plan Games and Purchase Gifts

  • For a two-hour bridal shower, select a minimum of 5 party games for the guests. Sample bridal shower games may include: Bridal Shower Bingo, Toilet Paper Wedding Dress and How Well Does the Bride Know the Groom? Create a schedule to include a light lunch, times for playing games and opening gifts. Ask the bridesmaids if they would like to pool their money together to buy a joint gift for the bride, or they may prefer buying individual gifts that represent the bridal shower theme.

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Social Networking and the Rise of Break-Ins

You wouldn't put a Steal My Stuff! sign on your front door, but you may be sending criminals a similar message by saying too much on Facebook or Twitter. Follow our rules and you'll lower the odds of being the victim of a break-in.

Keri McMullen was stoked. It was a Saturday in late March, and that morning, the 33-year-old had completed a 10K race. To celebrate, she and her fiancé, Kurt, and four of their friends were going to see the Fire Department Band, a local group, play at the Phoenix Hill Tavern in Louisville, Kentucky, about 10 minutes from the house Keri and Kurt were leasing.
Just before 6 p.m., Keri logged on to Facebook and posted a typical status update: "Heading to the Hill with Kurt...to see Fire Department." About two-and-a-half hours later, the couple was having a great time listening to music at the bar. Meanwhile, two men wearing hooded sweatshirts were burglarizing their house.
When the concert ended at midnight, Keri met up with girlfriends at another club to continue partying, and Kurt, who had to work the following morning, headed home.
He first saw the empty space where the plasma TV had been. Then he noticed their laptops were missing from the kitchen table. He checked a surveillance video (the homeowner was trying to sell the place, and Kurt had installed a camera to keep tabs on potential buyers) and confirmed what his gut had already told him. All told, the burglars had stolen $10,000 worth of valuables, including Keri's grandmother's wedding ring.

The next day, Keri posted news of the break-in on Facebook and uploaded video stills of the burglars. Within minutes, she got a message from somebody who recognized one of the suspects as a guy who had Facebook friended Keri six months before. (She wanted to confront him, but police told her that could jeopardize the case.) According to police, one suspect had lived across the street from Keri's family when she was growing up, but she hadn't seen him in about 15 years. (At press time, no arrests had been made.) Like all of Keri's nearly 600 Facebook friends, the alleged suspect had access to her profile page…and her status updates. In other words, she had basically told him that her house would be empty all night.
You've been warned countless times about the dangers of disclosing sensitive information like your Social Security number when you're online. But you may not realize how dangerous it is to share random details of your life, like what your plans are for the night, where you're going on vacation, or how psyched you are about your new computer. That's because those bits of information are like candy to criminals.
According to research interviews with 105 burglars — seriously, a criminology professor questioned active criminals — they're likely to target people who somehow reveal info about their daily routine. Years ago, the opportunities to do that were relatively rare; the only people who would know you were out at a concert were the friends you were there with and maybe a coworker you had mentioned it to that afternoon. But these days, technology — in the form of Facebook, Twitter, GPS-enabled cell phones, and blogs — has created many more ways to divulge sensitive information and made it available to an exponentially larger group of people.

"Generally, whenever someone means to commit a crime, he preplans it," says Robert Siciliano, a security consultant to adt.com. "Well, criminals no longer even have to sit outside your home to see you come and go. They can sit in their own home and see you come and go on Facebook and Twitter."
Luckily, you don't have to become a virtual recluse in order to protect yourself. You just have to know the info that criminals are looking for so that you can make sure never to give it out.
"The number one thing that puts you at risk of a break-in is oversharing the details of your life," explains Richard Wright, PhD, a professor of criminology and criminal justice at the University of Missouri and author of Burglars on the Job: Streetlife and Residential Break-Ins. "What burglars have always craved is information about you." As Keri found out, simply announcing your plans for the night can be dangerous — burglars prefer to strike houses when they are certain no one is home and they have a clear idea of how long the house will be empty.
During a 10-day crime spree last summer, two men burglarized five homes in a suburb of Birmingham, Alabama, stealing thousands of dollars' worth of property. They chose their victims simply by logging on to Facebook; the pair were either friends or friends of friends with one resident of all the houses. In fact, in every single case, a person had posted information revealing that the occupants of the house would be away on vacation.
The average Facebook user has 130 friends — which means she also has an average of 16,900 friends of friends. And even if you discriminate about whom you accept, there's no way of knowing how careful your friends are. So instead of worrying about who sees what you post, don't post your plans in the first place. Make it a rule to wait until after you return to comment on how great the trip or concert was. If you want to invite people to an event, e-mail them or send out a text blast instead of writing on Facebook walls.

The concept of urban-exploration applications like Foursquare is pretty cool: You check in on your phone when you arrive at a coffee shop, restaurant, or any other spot around town and your friends instantly know where to find you. But when you let others know where you are, you also let them know where you aren't — namely, at home. Sure, the Foursquare users who find out your location have been approved by you, but that's no guarantee of safety. For one thing, many users cross-post to Facebook and Twitter. Plus, researchers estimate that about two-thirds of burglaries are committed by someone who knows you at least a little.
Sarah Roberts uses her iPhone for so much — updating Foursquare and Twitter, taking pictures, answering e-mails — so it's very possible that played a role in her break-in last fall. The 27-year-old returned home from work one night to discover that somebody had used a crowbar to force open the back door of the Atlanta home she shared with her then-boyfriend. Inside, her laptop, iPod speakers, and new 52-inch flatscreen TV (a purchase Sarah had snapped with her iPhone and posted online) were missing.
"I'm more cautious today, especially now that I live alone," Sarah tells us. "I make sure that all my privacy settings are high, I don't post pictures of where I live, and I don't announce big purchases."
Sarah didn't even realize it was possible to disclose her whereabouts every time she used her iPhone to tweet, which she did several times a day. That's another way to tip off burglars, Siciliano says. "If you tweet or take a photo with your smart phone and then upload it, you can opt to have the GPS in your phone pinpoint your location and tag it," he explains. "So the bad guy knows that, for instance, you're an hour away from home and he has at least that much time to get in and out of your house."
You can protect yourself by understanding — and utilizing — the privacy tools of any social media you use, especially ones that disclose your location, says Larry Magid, codirector of Connect Safely.org, a nonprofit devoted to issues surrounding Internet safety. That includes familiarizing yourself with the default privacy settings. "If you're not comfortable with what they are, change them," Magid says. "And if you can't change them, stop using the service."
Within days of launching her blog, ramshackleglam.com, this past March, 29-year-old Jordan Reid had 5,000 people checking in daily to learn about her life. She'd blog about her comings and goings, whether it was to the store or to the other side of the country, and she'd regularly post pictures and upload videos that revealed the layout and contents of her apartment.
It took just two weeks before someone broke into her home, while she was in Canada for her grandmother's 90th birthday party (she posted photos of her travels and the party to her blog). The burglar made off with a few purses and a box of costume jewelry. Clearly, the person who did it was familiar with what was in her apartment and had come for specific things. "A regular criminal wouldn't just walk past a laptop, TV, and stereo," Jordan tells us.
Security experts warn against posting pictures revealing what you have and where you have it. Photos of the inside of your home read like a floor plan for burglars, whose main objective is to get in and out quickly.
Last year, a group of L.A. teenagers reportedly used celebrities' Facebook and Twitter feeds to target their homes. Ashley Tisdale, Orlando Bloom, Rachel Bilson, Lindsay Lohan, and Paris Hilton were all victims of the group — nicknamed the Bling Ring — who followed their whereabouts with, in some cases, help from the celebrities' very own tweets. The burglars were reportedly shocked by how easy it was to gain access to the stars' homes.
But it isn't just your own habits — online and off — that can set you up for a break-in. Your friends may inadvertently be raising your risk when, for instance, you show up at a party and somebody tweets that you've just arrived or you go away for a long holiday weekend with a group of girlfriends and one of them posts pictures on Facebook.
"Your friends put you at risk by what they expose," notes Danah Boyd, PhD, a social-media researcher at Microsoft Research and a fellow at Harvard University's Berkman Center for Internet and Society. "You might not have decided to post on Facebook that you're away from home, but then your friend writes about how she's having fun with you." So make a point of asking pals not to post about your upcoming or current plans until you're back home. And when you do see a friend's post, tweet, or blog entry that makes it clear you'll be away, let her know why it's a bad idea. It won't take long before all 17,030 of your friends and friends of friends know how crucial it is to keep criminals in the dark.


guy and girl in bathroom
"I feel like I am always woo-ing my girl but it doesn't happen the other way around. I bring her flowers often. I wish occasionally she'd surprise me with a six-pack or my favorite dessert." —Dustin, 25

"When a guy first gets home, give him ten minutes or so before you really start talking to him. We need time to decompress. After that, we'll be much better listeners." —Marco, 29

"My fiance takes over the kitchen. She's a great cook, but I wish she'd ask me to join her sometimes. It'd be fun and sexy to make dinner together." — Andy, 32

"If you're irritated with me, tell me. Women seem to keep saying they're fine even when they're not until they just blow up. I'd rather know earlier so I can try and fix whatever I did." —Chris, 26

"I love spending time with my wife but sometimes it feels like we have to do everything together. I'd like to spend one night apart every so often. I feel like it'd give us more to talk about." —Peter, 27

"After a fight, I like being physically close to my girl. So, it's nice when she cuddles up next to me on the couch." —Eric, 24

"Compliment how I look when we're going out. I always say how great my girlfriend looks, but I want a little ego boost too." —Justin, 25

"If we're at dinner or even watching a movie at home together, put down your phone." — Mike, 28

"When you ask me a question give me some time to figure out the answer. Whether it is about moving in together or going to Christmas at your parents, I need to think about it. So, don't be upset or take it personally if I can't give you an answer right away." —Travis, 33

"Random 'I love you' texts are always nice." —Fabian, 29

Steps to stop thinking about your boyfriends exes

1.Ask yourself why you are thinking about your Boyfriend's exes. Is your boyfriend constantly bringing them up in conversation and making comments that leave you feeling inadequate? Or perhaps it's you creating this problem for yourself, by comparing yourself to the ex? Identify whether your need to think about them is due to his behavior or your own.

2. If your Boyfriend is bringing them up, it's time to talk. Tell him how hurtful it is when he mentions his ex and give him a chance to change. If you see no improvement, you should re-consider your relationship. He may not be over his ex.

3.If you're thinking about them yourself, look at why. Is your self-esteem not as great as it should be? This may well cause you to be look at his past relationships and cause you further worry. Perhaps you are a jealous person? Whatever the reason, only you can work it out.

4. Live in the moment! Those past relationships didn't work for a reason.

Face it: He is not over his ex

A lot of people carry unnecessary baggage from one relationship to the next. But when does it stop? How many of you ladies are listening to the many battles between your man and his ex-wife or ex-girlfriend? What are they arguing about? Is it really that serious? Probably not. You'll be surprised how many men are not completely over their ex-wife or ex-girlfriend. You'll also be surprised on the many women who tolerate the behavior because they are oblivious to the signs that reveal the surprising truth—he's not over her, and can never be completely into you, until he's completely over her. Here are seven signs that reveal the sudden truth and they are:

First, if he's talking about her on a regular basis. It's quite normal for a person to mention the ex. It's okay for them to even mention their likes and dislikes, usually mentioned in the first month or two of dating and done in moderation; however, if she is the topic of the day, everyday or every other day, he's not over her.

Second, if he gets upset when you tell him that he's not over her. When you're over someone the simple mentioning of her name would go in one ear and straight out the other. It wouldn't strike a nerve, clinch fist and raise eyebrows.

Third, if he calls her everything but a child of God. Congratulations! You are dating, the Jeopardy winner on the topic of name calling. I'll take "Name Calling" for 200 please, Alex. If they have children together, this is definitely not a good sign. It shows a lack of respect, a lack of maturity and a sure fact that he will refer to you as the same in the near future. No one should make you that upset that you have to result to name calling.
Fourth, if he still has pictures and keepsakes from their relationship. Wow! She won that bear for him at the fair. He likes the way he looks in that picture. He was muscular and thinner back then. Well, join a gym. The focus should be on the new relationship with you. Not the past relationship with her. That certainly wasn't the end of all fair's.

Fifth, he still has a special ringtone for her. The question that comes to mind is—why? You should be the only one with a special ringtone. Sure this may sound trivial, but it's another clear sign that—he's not over her. He's eager to hear the ring and is preparing himself for the call. No, he's not brushing his teeth or combing his hair. He's preparing mentally.

Sixth, he tries his best to get even with her. Again, the question that comes to mind is—why? If all of his energy is spent on ways he can get even with her, when is he spending quality time with you? Time shouldn't be physically spent together but mentally and emotionally as well. You don't just want his body with you, but his mind and heart too. If his mind is somewhere else his heart may be there too. It's a thin line between love and hate. Usually a person can hate someone because they love them, and hate the fact that they don't love them back. Love and hate basically stems from being hurt.

Seventh, if he talks negatively about her to the kids. This is obviously something that should never occur. His disagreement is with her, not the kids. Kids love their parent's not matter what they do. They will always love them. Putting negative impressions about her in their minds will make them resent him in the long run. This should raise a red flag with all women. The way he talks about her will be the exact same way he will talk about you if or when you become the ex.

Ladies, these are a few good signs to look for. He's subconsciously informing you that he's not over her. There are still some unresolved issues that he will have to finish before the two of you can continue and grow as a couple. It's okay if he's not over her. Don't look at it as a reflection on you, she was before you. Therefore, you have to ask yourself, do you want to be number one? Number two? The only one? If your answer is the only one, then you'll have to wait until he ends his unfinished business. But don't wait too long, because there are other men who will love to have you as his only one.