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Stop Making These Mistakes With Men

Everything depends on two things:
1. Your ability to be INDEPENDENT, to have a life that feels good with or without him, and enough self-love to say "No" to what you don't want. And...
2. The squishy soft openness to allow a man into your heart and body with total warmth and acceptance and INTER-DEPENDENCY.
And...if you allow a man into your heart without first making sure he's good to you and that you feel good about yourself with him...that won't work.
And if you push a man away because you feel angry, resentful, or just plain scared - that won't work, either.
The secret is in the "combo" - and my Targeting Mr. Right program will teach you everything you need to know about how to navigate dating so that you'll draw EVERY man in to you. So that you'll have so many choices in men - and you'll be able to make decisions instead of "falling into" a man for the wrong reasons.

Once we meet a man we really like, we women tend to dive right in. We want to give our hearts, mind and very soul to a man, and meld together into a perfect relationship. We give away our exclusivity before a man gives us the commitment we want.
But...when we close off our options with other men too soon, we actually sabotage our ability to get the commitment and intimacy we so desire!
It's the biggest mistake women make, and you need to stop it - right now! - and start dating many men at the same time until you have the commitment you want from the man who's right for you.
Here's why:
When you have all your hopes and dreams wrapped up in any one guy, it's natural to fear losing him...and losing you.
You become obsessed with every phone call, jump when he says jump, and change from the attractive, interesting woman who intrigued him into someone needy and clingy he feels pressured to check in with.
Instead, keep your options open to keep your sanity and remind him that you're a prize to be won.
When you stop over-investing too quickly, you'll start getting the kind of affection and attention you crave.
It's hard to see the red flags when there's only one guy on the horizon.
If you think he's your only hope, you tend to gloss over things about him that indicate he's NOT a good match.
These red flags become land mines over time, and suddenly you've wasted a lot of love and affection on someone who isn't deserving of you.
Dating is about getting to know different men until one special man emerges as the cream of the crop - and you both decide to take things to the next level.
You get to CHOOSE if he is the right man for you, and have the time to find out who he is and how he'll treat you.
Everyone tells you to "take things slow," but how on Earth are you supposed to do that when you're head over heels for someone?
Easy: Keep dating other guys.
There's no point in trying to slow things down with a man when he's the only one you're dating. It's practically impossible.
But if you keep dating other men, you're instantly able to take it slowly.
Your schedule is busy with other dates and activities so that you're automatically not always available to any one man, and it also gives you time to catch your breath and reflect on what he's revealing to you about himself.
I'm sure you've heard that you should "throw out the checklist" and not be too picky when it comes to men and dating.
But I'm here to tell you that if you throw out the idea of dating one man at a time, you have a much better chance of winding up with your checklist...and more.
By keeping your options open and increasing the number of men you meet and date, you increase the likelihood of meeting the man you've been dreaming of...rather than settling for whomever you happen to meet first.
Dating many men at the same time is about helping you feel empowered and raising your self esteem. It's about making you the chooser...not the chaser.
So give it a try. Just treat it as an experiment.
Open yourself up to getting to know as many men as you can and, when one shows up that you really connect with, don't make the mistake of shutting down other options right away.
Make him prove to you that he's worth choosing.
I'm willing to bet it will get you faster to your "one" than you ever imagined.
To get the nuts-and-bolts of how to Circular Date like this - dating and talking with and simply INTERACTING with as many men as you have time for - you'll want to check out my Targeting Mr. Right program.
"Targeting" teaches you HOW to "Circular Date." To be at the CENTER of all of these men.
You'll finally know how to HANDLE all the men that are out there, even how to handle your TIME, your emotions, your old inner patterns of choosing the wrong men - and most important - how to NOT INVEST in any one man until you KNOW you have what you want.
You can start watching Targeting Mr. Right online here:
This is an entirely revolutionary concept, we think - but, truly - this is the way our grandmothers did it.
The thing that's confused the whole concept of "dating" and made us feel we have to become "exclusive" with one man is sex.
Our grandmothers would NEVER think of sleeping with a man before marriage - and so they could date as many men as they wanted to without worrying about how that "looked" to anyone.
The tradition you see in period movies about going to parties and having a "dance card" is what Circular Dating and Targeting Mr. Right is all about - AND - "Targeting" will teach you how to handle the sex so you can keep your cool and get the love and permanent relationship you want!