I squeezed my brain to come up for this short list I learn about love. Whew! I learn many things about love, whether in a boy-girlfriend relationship or in a platonic relationship. The main goal is that I learned and I am proud of this little achievements of mine. ;) Base on my own experience I come up of my top 5 learning. Bare with me for I am a novice in this field. I presume some of you took the masters degree (Already married, I mean).
Trust me
To start with, Trust is really the main fundamental ingredient in every relationship. For me, trust has to be earned. You work hard for it. You have to give time for trust to be fully developed. Direct communication is a key part of any relationship. When both of you feel comfortable expressing your needs, fears and desires, trust and bonds are strengthened. The most critical to communication are nonverbal cues; body language like eye contact, leaning forward or away, or touching someone’s arm.
Forgive + Forget = Acceptance/Understand
Nobody's Perfect, The most famous line. ;) Couple do have conflicts, in order to get through it you have to talk things out quietly, while others may raise their voices and passionately disagree. The key in a strong relationship, is not to be fearful of conflict. You need to be safe to express things that bother you without fear of retaliation, and be able to resolve conflict without humiliation, degradation or insisting on being right. Recognize your mistakes and say sorry (mean it). Be sincere. You don't need to get angry to your partner for letting you see your mistakes. Acknowledge your fault, be mature enough to accept every word she said. It may hurt your feelings but you will learn from it. Understand each other more. That's the mystery of love. Discovering each others differences that will help you become a better person and build a much better and healthier relationship.
Know what your partner likes
Be sensitive. Sensitive is merely found in girls, for girls are melodramatic. Touch is a key part of a healthy relationship, it’s important to take some time to find out what your partner really likes. Unwanted touching or inappropriate overtures can make the other person tense up and retreat—exactly what you don’t want. Know what your partner likes. Do a research about what he/she likes to do or eat. Just a little effort yet it will make your partner happy. I am pretty sure you want that. ;)
Be open to change
Change is inevitable in life, and it will happen whether you go with it or fight it. People are so afraid of change in their lives because they are afraid that it will ruin them. Flexibility is essential to adapt to the change that is always taking place in any relationship, and it allows you to grow together through both the good times and the bad. FYI: God is the only one that gives unconditional love. So do not expect to much on your partner. It will freak her/him out.
Love yourself first before you love someone else
Learn to love yourself. Relationship doesn't start when you find your partner, but it has to start with the one you have with yourself. Loving yourself is the best way to learn how to love. It requires understanding, capabilities, and skills then recognize your limitations, weaknesses, and strengths. When you learn to master how to love and take care of yourself then you can extend the same treatment to others. When you believe within yourself how valuable you are, you will get an authentic affection on your partner. Your partner is a reflection of you. The types of people that come into our lives are affected by your beliefs. You need to tap into the inner soul and heart and discover all that you are worth and offer.
