Mending a broken heart

So many relationships end with a broken heart. Many times only one person wanted out of the relationship and that leaves the other person wounded with a broken heart.  When a relationship ends it takes a toll on the self-esteem and it may take many months if not years to recover.  


There are 3 steps to mending a broken heart.   

1.  Forgiveness.  Forgive yourself for all the wrong that you feel you did during the relationship and then forgive the other person for any wrong you feel they did.  Forgive and go free.

2. Self-esteem rebuilding. Work on rebuilding your  self-esteem. We have some great articles on self-esteem and how to rebuild it. 

3.  Aloneness. Be alone and feel the loneliness. Give yourself some healing time and work on mending your broken heart one step at a time. You will mend over time and you will find love again. Be patient with yourself.  The more you work at forgiveness and you learn how to move forward the heart will mend and become open again.

You think your relationship might be over. Your pain is unbearable. You feel so lost, alone and confused that sometimes you feel like crawling in a hole and dying. You just want somebody or something to stop the pain so you can feel normal again.

Because of all that's happened, you probably have a million thoughts going through your head right now.

You might be...

~ Wondering when the pain is ever going to stop

~ Trying to figure out what in the world just happened

~ Having trouble sleeping at night because of your "what if's"

~ Finding it hard to drag yourself out of bed in the morning

~ Trying to let go of your love but you still can't think of anything else

~ Trying to stop crying but the tears just keep coming--and at the worst possible times

~ Feeling "numb" as you go through your day and try to appear "normal"

~ Finding it hard to focus on anything, especially work

~ Wondering if your time with your partner was a total waste of time

~ Just trying to make it through the day without bursting into tears and breaking down--but you do it anyway

~ Thinking you're a total failure at love and you'll never have the kind of relationship you want

~ Not wanting to go home knowing that your partner won't be there and you'll be alone

And what you're really thinking is that this is all some sort of bad dream that you're going to wake up from any moment now and everything will be back to normal.

If ANY of those thoughts and feelings are familiar to you, you're not alone.