Men are...

It's important to keep a guys interest during a relationship. Some of what makes people happy in general, can be applied to guys. Guy and girls are still different and have different wants and needs. Keeping a guy happy can take work. Some guys have short attention spans and expect a lot. Any relationship should be about giving and receiving though.

Be supportive of him. Nothing better than a girl who is always in a mans corner. Guys aren't as tough as they appear on the inside. They have fragile ego's as well, and need support. They want their woman to stand by them, and be helpful.

Avoid drama. Some drama can't always be helped. It's okay to talk to your guy over problems that happen. When I mean avoid drama, don't flip out on him all the time. Do not make him feel drained out constantly.

Give him trust. Trust is key in any relationship. If you're not giving a guy, or any person trust, you are pushing their trust in you away. Don't always question his motives and assume the worse. That hurts a persons self-esteem and makes them feel bad. Which in return makes it difficult to keep him.

Don't be so needy. Don't always focus on your needs, and what the guy needs to do for you. It's a pretty big turnoff and grows old on a man. If you don't feel he's giving enough, then that's a decision or topic you are allowed to talk about with him. Relationship is a 50/50 partnership. You can't demand so much out of your partner, where you've become unreasonable.

Don't control your guy. Anytime I'm out somewhere. I see someone's wife, or even girlfriend talking down to her guy. Ordering him around and basically showing she's the dominant person in the relationship. I think to myself, he's got to be the most unlucky guy on the plant. I'm not saying guys should treat girls that way too. Of course it's bad on both sides. Even if the guy is putting up with it, trust me, he's not happy. Don't treat your man like he's five years old in public, or overall. You'll chase him away and eventually he'll have enough of it and move on.

Do things that interest him. Don't always do what you like. Do what he likes. If he likes sports, go to a ball game with him. You don't have to do what he likes 24/7, but I think it's fair to at least try and do things that he enjoys. That's a better way to bond more and become even closer to your guy.

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I was born with an enormous need for affection,
and a terrible need to give it.
I love people who make me laugh.
I give credit to those who cheer me up during sad times.
I honestly think it's the thing I like most, to laugh.
It cures a multitude of ills.
It's probably the most important thing for me, for us.

Women are...

Can men figure it out what ladies are trying to say? Wouldn’t it be a relief to finally understand what is happening behind her pretty eyes? Why is it, for example, that the woman in your life is serene one moment, apocalyptic the next? The mood swings and while she is taking everything so personally yet you always see question marks all over her face. Plus how can she remember details about your life you don’t even recall?

Pay attention to the little things

Women see shades of meaning in small gestures. Female brain Chemistry according to research: Primarily because significant regions of the cortex — the outer layer of a brain that conducts much of its high-level computing — are thicker in the ladies. Examples: A comment like, “I’d rather watch the game” might say more than you meant it to. Likewise, a small act of kindness (from a kiss on the cheek to simply calling ahead to make reservations) will blow her away because she’ll consider both the gesture and the thoughtfulness behind the gesture.

To keep up with her memory, take notes

Women remember everything. It is a scientific fact. It is her forte. Therefore to keep up with her, take down notes.

According to researches: the hippocampus takes up a larger percent of the female brain than the male brain, which is good to know because it’s where memories are formed. So while you remember —maybe — the day you met, she’s recorded your first phone call, first flirtation, first date, first kiss, etc. Bottom line? There’s a reason the alarms, notes, and the cellphone calendar were invented. Use these electronic tools to keep up with her mighty hippocampus.

Follow her calm lead versus instigating fights

Women are much better at reining in her aggressive impulses than men.

Study shows: Doctors at the University of Pennsylvania measured the size of the orbitofrontal cortex, an area of the brain involved in regulating emotions. They then compared it with the size of the amygdala, which creates emotional reactions to events. They discovered that female brains have a much larger orbitofrontal-to-amygdala ratio (OAR) than male brains do. That suggests women are better than guys at responding calmly to rudeness or aggression. “The orbitofrontal cortex (OFC) is the main ‘modulator’ of amygdala action,” explains researcher Ruben Gur. “So if you are at a party and someone insults you, the amygdala, which is a very primitive and old structure in human brains, will be yelling, ‘Kill the guy!’ The OFC is the part of the brain that will say: ‘Consider the context; there are people around.’” Thus, if you want to impress her, quiet your own amygdala and behave as gracefully as she does.

Write her a poem... or at least a cute email... or a love letter

Women’s brains are wired to be more language-centric than men’s.

“Women excel in something called verbal fluency, or being able to come up with appropriate words, given cues,” says Dr. Larry Cahill of the University of California at Irvine. Researchers at McMaster University found that female brains have a greater density of neurons in parts of the temporal lobe cortex, which is the area of the brain associated with language processing and comprehension.

This could help explain why women often know the right thing to say, send great cards, gifts, and love notes, and choose words with such care. In wooing a love interest, it wouldn’t hurt to get the help of a trusted female friend or a close friend of your partner. She’ll know just what to say.

Be her serotonin

Women’s brains produce significantly less serotonin — the brain chemical that helps make us happy — than male brains do. So if she has a tough day at work, treat to her to a transfusion: try a pep talk, soothing back rub or long hug or kisses.

One more thing, If we run into your ex-girlfriend in public, the first thing you should do is put your arm around us. And if we have to introduce ourselves, you are in big trouble.

can you move a mountain?

This is real for some people...it's sad...loving each other isn't enough sometimes...when it's over ...it's over...just let it go

Zero Point

I asked for a few hours to talk, my very last chance to tell you the words I was to scared to say, that very last time I will hold your hand, and the very last time I can actually say you are still mine. I love you and will promise to love you forever. These words are so special, so true.

just smile

I had been watching glee since season 1 and there is this one episode that I can really relate to.

Smile though your heart is aching
Smile, even though it's breaking
When there are clouds, in the sky, you'll get by
If you smile, through your fear and sorrow
Smile, and there'll be tomorrow
You'll see the sun come shining through
If you'll....
Light up your face with gladness
Hide every trace of sadness
Although a tear, may be ever so near,
That's the time, you must keep on trying
Smile, what's the use of crying?
You'll find that life is still worthwhile,
If you'll just....
Light up your face with gladness
Hide every trace of sadness
Although a tear, may be ever so near,
That's the time, you must keep on trying
Smile, what's the use of crying?
You'll find that life is still worthwhile,
If you'll just....
Smile

I find it amazing how the power of music really uplifts our soul and our heart. You will be alright, even just for a while. For this song makes you see the beauty of everything, not even if your heart is dampen with all of fears and heartaches.

For me, sadness is a feeling, a feeling that can be of a choice. I received a message and would like to share it with you guys, “Feelings are also living things, they live inside the heart of a person, and like other living things, and they also die in different reasons.” Which is true! =)

WHO LOVES YOU?

When to love?

You never love a person not unless he/she is important to you. You love a person for a reason and you will always love that person at least forever. When loving someone who loves you too add giggles. A magical feeling that you don't want to end it or like to freeze the time to be with your love one. There is a sense of underlying oneness which will lead to something blissful.

But when do you stop?

When you say you love an ex, this is pretty alarming. This is not good if you are already committed to someone else. There is someone else involved and you are hurting that person. Stand what you believe and feel. You cannot have the best of both worlds. You are being selfish and insensitive.

Sometimes you decided to end the relationship because you have to. You may not fully understand everything but you need to for the betterment of your partner or for each other. But the hurt will never fades. It will take you months, years to let go, to outgrown the feeling of not having the love you once had. But how will you know if it already faded? Sometimes people usually hid these things because the more they talk about it, the more pain they received. Finding another love is a very effective outlet. That person heals your pain at the same time you find yourself someone else that will break your heart. =(

Love is a wonderful feeling. Who would decline a love proposal? Greater chances no one will, yet about 10 - 15% might be. When love you felt is true, you can never go wrong but it is only wonderful when you are not hurting someone else. Don't be such a hypocrite. You don't have the right to play games with emotions. Aren't you ashamed of what you are doing? sigh