How do you ask a friend out on a date? You may have had a crush on a friend for a long time, but unless you really know how to tell your friend that you like them, don’t tell them. Warm them up, and before you know it, your friend might just fall in love with you!
Click here to read the introduction: Are you Falling in Love with a Friend?
There you are, lost in the buzzing of surprise, frustration and sadness spinning within your head. This doesn’t make any sense, does it? The both of you have always shared the best moments together, and have loved all the times you’ve shared with each other… now why was the need for your friend to respond in this manner, you ask yourself.
You know what you remind me of? You remind me of one of the hundred sky divers who jumped off the airplane, and you were the only one who’s never done this before! That’s not stupid enough? Well, consider this, you’ve forgotten to strap on your parachute! Freaky, don’t you think? If that thought could send a shudder down your spine, well, a sudden proposal should make you feel the same way.
There are a few better ways to let your crush know you’re in love. Ways that are a lot safer and have more chances of working. And something that won’t leave you broken hearted in the end. Never use the stupidest and most common ploy, which is getting psychotically drunk, and either grabbing them and groping everywhere, or droning on about how much you love them, and since how long, and how you want to get married and have babies together. This will most likely make them run away screaming, or you’ll find them back again, this time with a chainsaw! And all this even if they ever fancied you in the first place. You might call this an act of punch drunk love, but everyone else calls it the evidence for a restraining order!
Warm Up to the Act
If you want to let your friend know what’s on your mind, let them know, but do it in a very subtle manner. To begin with, flirt a bit. See if you get anything reciprocating back towards you. It’s hard to judge these things because we all know that flirting between friends can be cute at times. So look for those signs to see if they are genuinely flirting back with you. Accept it that there is no sure shot sign to know that they are getting infatuated by you unless they grab you near the corner and start snogging you, but you could at least let them know that they are looking at a new side of you, something that they hopefully, will like.
But don’t ever behave like a doormat when this person is around, and don’t throw yourself at their feet. Have fun when the both of you are together, and make sure you give your crush a lot of space. Let them miss you once in a while, let them know that being with you is fun and something that they enjoy. This is probably the best way to get your crush to like you.
Once you think the time is right and you feel that your crush has got enough of a hint to wonder if there’s something more than just friendship brewing between the both of you, get your moves right. Be brave, find the perfect time, and a quiet moment, and ask them if they want to go out with you sometime. Yes, as more-than-just-friends. Let them know that there’s no pressure, and if they don’t want to, it’s alright and you’d love to be good mates. Be prepared for a knock back, and hope for the best.
If They Say No
You’ve tried your best, you’ve got your message across and there’s nothing more you can do. But be nice, however disappointed you feel. You may have built things up in your head, but it’s not your fault that this person didn’t see things the way you wanted them to see it. Make it a point to keep in touch, but don’t trail along like you’ve got no one else or nothing better to do. And stop whining about the great love that never was. Scrap it down as an experience. Make sure your life doesn’t revolve around them, however hard it might seem. This would only make things harder for you as well for your crush. Have fun with other people and try finding someone who fancies you just as much as you fancy them.
If They Say Yes
Lucky you! Told ya it’ll work! Good for you!
